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Jan. 13th, 2014 07:07 pmWell....the last few weeks have gotten away from me so I'll just have to post highlights. I spent Christmas Day home alone, which wasn't really my intention but just the way things ended up. My parents went to my brother's house in SC and I hate traveling on the holidays so I declined to join. I also declined to join the extended family in town for dinner on Christmas Day. Being with them is simply not relaxing. I probably had other options, but I didn't take anyone up on them and it was pretty cold to go for a hike, so I just stayed in and read books. I got to take my hike on New Year's Day. KW and I took a very long walk in FP and HC even though he was extremely hungover and sick from the night before. We went to a party of his friends close to my place in RS and drank essentially the same things throughout the evening, only he ended it with 4 glasses of wine and I had none of that. That is probably more than I needed to share. Anyway....in the evening we went to PM & NC's house for dinner but didn't stay very late.
In between Christmas and the New Year, KW's mom was in town and I was not sure I was going to meet her but then he invited me to join them and his sister's family at PC for the winter flower show. We went for Thai food beforehand. PC was packed, but it was nice. I enjoyed walking through the outdoor light displays while sipping some mulled wine. His mom was nice and we had a few things in common like antiquing. I was house-sitting at PM & NC's for the weekend, so Kyle came and spent the night with me since it is close to his place which is still essentially unlivable during the demolition.
The weekend after the New Year, I helped KW and his dad with the last of the wall demolition at his place. Saturday we worked then met up with SF & MS at PB, then went to a party in E at KW's friend, S's house, where KW offhandedly introduced me as his "girlfriend". What?! Later he asked me if that was OK, and I did not know how to react, but I was curious about what it meant to him. After giving it some thought, I did not mind it because it indicated his feelings about me in a way he has not vocalized. But it still seems odd that we have not had any conversations about the nature of the relationship, how we feel about each other, etc., and I feel like I have no clue.
On Sunday we met his dad at the house around noon to finish the demolition and clean the place. KW had spent most of the week with me, but we got his bed set up and I did the dishes and cleaned the black coal dust from his sink and tub so he could stay at his own place. I missed having him with me, which is a feeling I had nearly forgotten. I do have the sense that time apart is good, but maybe it is a lingering sense based on recent experiences with less suitable men whose company I did not enjoy so much. And absence makes the heart grow fonder, and some such.......
On Wed. 1/8/2014 KW invited me join him for early morning yoga class. This is something I would not normally say yes to because it is outside my comfort zone to go to a strange place with strange people and do a strange activity. I am not sure why I trust KW so much, but he has never disappointed me or let me down so far, so I knew it would be fine and I was excited for the new experience with him. I had even purchased some fancy expensive yoga pants so I would have something suitable to wear. I *loved* yoga. I loved the stretching and how I felt a little sore afterward and it was relaxing like I got a massage only nobody had to touch me (I do not like being touched by strangers). The lights were low and there was soft music and the teacher gave great instructions so I felt comfortable. Afterward we went to the B for coffee before KW had to go to work and sat in the corner on the same side of the table and had a lovely time with our Mexican hot chocolate. It was such a fantastic date that it feels like the peak already. I can not imagine a better date down the line--it was just that wonderful.
I still repeat my mantra often--"Kiss the joy"--to remind me to enjoy each moment in the moment for exactly what it is and nothing more or less. So far it is serving me well and I feel free to enjoy KW's company to the fullest every time we are together.
In between Christmas and the New Year, KW's mom was in town and I was not sure I was going to meet her but then he invited me to join them and his sister's family at PC for the winter flower show. We went for Thai food beforehand. PC was packed, but it was nice. I enjoyed walking through the outdoor light displays while sipping some mulled wine. His mom was nice and we had a few things in common like antiquing. I was house-sitting at PM & NC's for the weekend, so Kyle came and spent the night with me since it is close to his place which is still essentially unlivable during the demolition.
The weekend after the New Year, I helped KW and his dad with the last of the wall demolition at his place. Saturday we worked then met up with SF & MS at PB, then went to a party in E at KW's friend, S's house, where KW offhandedly introduced me as his "girlfriend". What?! Later he asked me if that was OK, and I did not know how to react, but I was curious about what it meant to him. After giving it some thought, I did not mind it because it indicated his feelings about me in a way he has not vocalized. But it still seems odd that we have not had any conversations about the nature of the relationship, how we feel about each other, etc., and I feel like I have no clue.
On Sunday we met his dad at the house around noon to finish the demolition and clean the place. KW had spent most of the week with me, but we got his bed set up and I did the dishes and cleaned the black coal dust from his sink and tub so he could stay at his own place. I missed having him with me, which is a feeling I had nearly forgotten. I do have the sense that time apart is good, but maybe it is a lingering sense based on recent experiences with less suitable men whose company I did not enjoy so much. And absence makes the heart grow fonder, and some such.......
On Wed. 1/8/2014 KW invited me join him for early morning yoga class. This is something I would not normally say yes to because it is outside my comfort zone to go to a strange place with strange people and do a strange activity. I am not sure why I trust KW so much, but he has never disappointed me or let me down so far, so I knew it would be fine and I was excited for the new experience with him. I had even purchased some fancy expensive yoga pants so I would have something suitable to wear. I *loved* yoga. I loved the stretching and how I felt a little sore afterward and it was relaxing like I got a massage only nobody had to touch me (I do not like being touched by strangers). The lights were low and there was soft music and the teacher gave great instructions so I felt comfortable. Afterward we went to the B for coffee before KW had to go to work and sat in the corner on the same side of the table and had a lovely time with our Mexican hot chocolate. It was such a fantastic date that it feels like the peak already. I can not imagine a better date down the line--it was just that wonderful.
I still repeat my mantra often--"Kiss the joy"--to remind me to enjoy each moment in the moment for exactly what it is and nothing more or less. So far it is serving me well and I feel free to enjoy KW's company to the fullest every time we are together.
